I'm blonde and tanned and normal-sized! I'm sweet shy funny have a big heart and I'm nice - and I like to eat.
The best beauty advice I ever received is to keep skin hydrated and limit harsh exposure to the sun. If you are set on the tanned look there are plenty of great creams that will give you a healthy-looking glow.
There is no nonsense so gross that society will not at some time make a doctrine of it and defend it with every weapon of communal stupidity.