Patriotism is best exemplified through auto-critique. When you're willing to stand up within the group and say 'It is wrong for Black people to be anti-Semitic ' or 'It is wrong for America to discriminate against persons of African descent and made them slaves and based its wealth upon free labor ' it's crucial to say that.
As soon as someone tells me: 'You're rather sexy ' I wish I could disappear. If somebody says: 'You were voted the world's sexiest man ' I have no idea what that means. How do I respond? 'Thank you' is the best you can do. George Clooney is the world's sexiest man anyway.