When a decision is made to go to war based on intelligence it is a fateful decision. It has ramifications and impacts way beyond the current months and years.
When I started dating I had this kind of Romeo and Juliet fateful romantic idea about love which was almost that you were a victim and there was a lot of pain involved and that was how it should be.
Now I see the secret of making the best person: it is to grow in the open air and to eat and sleep with the earth.