I deal with postpartum feelings by reaching out to mom friends. I became very close with some of the women in my prenatal yoga class.
First accept sadness. Realize that without losing winning isn't so great.
My mom is in the navy and my dad works for the army but I never called them...
To 'choose' dogma and faith over doubt and experience is to throw out the ripening vintage and to reach greedily for the Kool-Aid.