You can get through very serious and sometimes horrible and sometimes embarrassing and very awkward situations with humor. It gives us a way out.
Since I can barely write two books a year the best solution seems to be...
Humor results when society says you can't scratch certain things in public...
In Poland my audience is all women between 18 and 30. At U.S. conventions you have the fantasy and science fiction crowd. At Harvard you have an entirely different audience. It's so schizophrenic.