It is the paradox of life that the way to miss pleasure is to seek it first. The very first condition of lasting happiness is that a life should be full of purpose aiming at something outside self.
When I was 40 my doctor advised me that a man in his 40s shouldn't play...
On a soap happiness never lasts for very long!
Every man has his own courage and is betrayed because he seeks in himself the courage of other persons.