Women's courage is rather different from men's. The fact that women have to bring up children and look after husbands makes them braver at facing long-term issues such as illness. Men are more immediately courageous. Lots of people are brave in battle.
The only way you can have it all is by delegating all the running of the home to other people - which I don't ever want to do... So you do it yourself and it takes time and energy and effort. And if you give it the time it's profoundly enjoyable.
